It is normal for a teenager to believe that incontinence should not be present in their lives since they are still young and presume urine leakage is only suffered by those of advanced age. Despite their way of thinking, urine dribbles can also appear in a teenager’s life and impact them, both emotionally and physically. Unfortunately, teenagers can be very cruel at this age, and generally, a girl or boy suffering from incontinence could be subject to constant teasing from their peers. Parents should be ready to face many inconveniences and have a conversation with their kids to let them know that they have their full support.
But let’s get real. Parenting teenagers is never an easy task and most of the time it is not simple to deal with them, let alone have a conversation regarding incontinence. So, to make things easier and smoother, here are a few helpful guidelines to follow, which will make you the best counselor for your child:
Be prudent when it comes to talking about incontinence with your child
It will always be extremely difficult for your kid to openly talk about this matter. As a parent, you should be able to determine when is the right moment and place to discuss this situation. Creativity can play a major role in this case. Try to go out with your child to places you know he or she will enjoy being at. Take advantage of those moments that make them feel comfortable and at ease, to bring up the subject. Avoid close and constant observation since this may create discomfort and embarrassment for your child.
Please do not get stressed out
It is understandable that, with the hectic life people are used to living nowadays, between work and home, life can get really stressing and, at some point, control over some situations might be lost. Having a meltdown can be possible during stressful situations like getting home and having to clean your child’s disorder. But please try to remain as calm as possible, otherwise, you may end up losing your child’s trust in you, which is very important when teenagers experience urine leakage. If this situation really gets out of your hands, then it is highly recommended to get extra help from another family member to get things in order.
Put yourself in their shoes
Try to imagine how you would feel if you were going through a difficult condition like incontinence. Being incontinent is not easy at all, especially for a teenager who is undergoing major changes in all aspects of life. As a parent, put in your best effort to make your child feel secure and supported. Let him or her feel that whenever a difficult moment arises, you will be willing and ready to listen to them, and also provide them with the right advice and guidance. Be extremely cautious as to which words you use when talking to your child. Remember, that words are powerful and if not used the right way, they can push your child towards depression.
Never tell your child that you are tired of them and that you feel ashamed because of them or that they will always depend on incontinence products for the rest of their lives. Hurtful remarks will only create a barrier between you and your children. So please, be understanding, kind and compassionate.
Avoid talking about incontinence diapers or other similar products
Specialists suggest not to have conversations related to wearing diapers or other similar products while talking to your son or daughter about this delicate topic. Teenagers can become really annoyed when this topic surfaces. So, do your best to avoid discussing incontinence diapers, focus on providing encouraging words and emphasize on the importance of visiting a specialist, so that the problem can be evaluated and the right treatment provided. Make sure you always remind them that you are there for them and that they can always count on you for support and guidance.
By following all these guidelines, you will certainly enhance the relationship with your kid, hence allowing more room for building trust.